The Nitty Gritty on Nepotism
I was recently hired as a manager at a family-owned company. My boss, the V.P. of marketing, is the CEO’s wife. She never went to college, has no experience in marketing, yet micromanages everyone, including those of us with MBAs. I’ve just learned that several talented people have quit because of her, and that she fires anyone who disagrees with her, with her husband’s full support. Short of quitting, how do I handle nepotism gone awry?
Not to be difficult here, but where the heck were you during the hiring process for this job?
We ask because it seems a little late for you to be discovering the kind of information that should be part of everyone’s due diligence when considering employment at a family-owned company. Information like: how many cousins want your next promotion and whether it is fatal—or merely dangerous—to disagree with the CEO’s next-of-kin.
Now, we’re not implying that people should avoid working in family-owned companies, which offer some of the best jobs in business. But when you decide to work at a family operation, realize you are accepting a special deal. And every deal has trade-offs.
With this one, the upside is real. Family-owned companies give you a level of collegiality and informality rarely found in corporate environments, with cultures that are, at their best, personal and warm. Employees can come to feel like family members, not numbers, and managers often have direct access to the stakeholders and decision-makers. You can really feel like you're in the game.
The downside is real too, as you are discovering. When you join a family-owned business, especially a small or medium-size one, you very often give up the adjudication process, for lack of a better term, that “enforces” fairness at professionally run organizations. That’s not saying that public companies don’t have their share of arbitrary bosses or favoritism. But the checks-and-balances at most public companies, such as employee satisfaction surveys and the “higher authority” of HR, do go a long way in giving employees a sense that there is a way for them to be heard during conflicts.
The only way to handle the absence of adjudication at family companies is to be prepared. Even if things are going well, employees should always have an exit strategy. And if you are considering joining a family company as a CEO, or even a high-level manager, don’t make a move unless you negotiate a severance package up front.
But what about your case? You don’t seem to have a contract, and you say you don’t want to quit. That means your only choice is, well, to adjust. You have to figure out the best way to work with the CEO’s wife. Forget her educational credentials, or lack thereof; she’s still your boss. So slow down your desire to make changes or speak out, and give her a chance to get to know—and trust—you.
Yes, proper due diligence during the hiring process might have raised red lfags, and perhaps you could have avoided the mess you’re in. But it’s too late for that now. The nepotism you’re encountering is part of the family-owned deal.
This question and answer originally appeared in Business Week magazine on August 21, 2006.
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